'He doesn't work for free, neither do I': Ex-boss talks about former employee behind her back, lies to her, then demands she work for free

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    Font - 'I told him my rate for an hour of work and he texted me back stating he cannot believe how greedy and money hungry I was.'
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    Font - AITA for telling my former employer I need to be paid if he wants my help? Throwaway account. A couple months ago, I [28F] left a job after close to 10 years of being there. It was an accumulation of things but I really just needed somewhere that was going to give me more money since I just had a baby. I told my boss my concerns, he refused to give me a raise, I found another job, accepted, gave my two weeks and left.
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    Font - I thought I had left on good terms, I wrote him an email stating I was beyond grateful for the last decade. He wrote back stating I would be welcome back at any time no matter what. It felt nice to have that little security, especially after so much time there.
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    Font - Things ended up not working out at the current company and it was mildly embarrassing but I shot my boss an email telling him what was going on and asking for my job back. He reached out to me stating that they had already replaced me and that unfortunately I was not welcome back since I had asked for more money. The last part stung a little since he told me I would be welcomed back at any time. My old coworker texted me and told me that he lied, he hadn't even begun interviewing anyone l
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    Font - This morning I woke up to a text message from him asking if I would be able to help my former coworker with paperwork that she was having trouble with. I told him my rate for an hour of work was and he texted me back stating he cannot believe how greedy and money hungry I was. I left my coworker with EVERYTHING she needed to know, I trained her for the last two whole weeks I was there, gave her access to all my files, passwords, asked her if she needed help understand anything and kept no
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    Font - CrystalQueen3000 Judge, Jury, and Excretioner [397]] NTA You know your worth, he's just ed that you've set a boundary Р Reply Share 1.5k ShirtSeparate3578 OP I took a long time but I learned how to say no!
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    Font - Material-Profit5923 Certified Proctologist [21] NTA. He is clearly not your friend, and you owe him nothing. He is the one who chose to burn bridges; building a new bridge after you burnt the old one is costly. 438 Reply Share ShirtSeparate3578 OP The idiotic thing is that he instilled a "we are family" mentality, but now that I'm seeing it without my rose colored glasses on, we weren't. His actions spoke louder than his words ever could.
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    Font - [deleted] NTA. I love how you handled it. Double the rate every time he asks again. This is exactly how you handle such things. He wants your labor, so he has to pay for it. Reply Share 234 ShirtSeparate3578 OP Thank you!
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    Font - eviqu NTA. He was already burning the bridge the moment you left. You didn't do anything wrong here and it's great you found a place way better than the toxic place you left. Reply Share 131 ShirtSeparate3578 OP I thought I did! I thought I did something so wrong by leaving, now I am glad I did!
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    Font - Prestigious_Isopod 72 Aficionado [13] A Of course NTA. If he had treated you with an ounce of respect, you might have felt differently about doing him a favor now. Since he ridiculed and disrespected you, you owe him zilch. He's lucky you took his call at all and are willing to work at a fair market rate. 61 Reply Share ShirtSeparate3578 OP What hurt the most was him telling my coworker that I was pathetic and groveling for my job back. I just explained the situation and I was not begging
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    Font - RO NTA. He's upset he isn't in control and you told him no. Probably a narcissist that rages when he doesn't get his way. Reply Share 24 ShirtSeparate3578 OP Most definitely!
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    Font - Spiritual-Bridge3027 Certified Proctologist [20] ΝΤΑ After all the lies and cheekiness your former boss demonstrated, you asking them an hourly rate for doing their work is very fair actually. Reply Share 21 ShirtSeparate3578 OP I can't believe he lied to me, like I wouldn't find out. That was the worst part.
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    Font - TectTactic Parta ipant [1] your old boss is the AH, offered to keep your job open for you if you ever needed it back but declined when you asked for it back, i would just block em and move on, time = money if he wants you to help then he need to know it comes with a fee, at least now you have a job where people respect you Reply Share 14 ShirtSeparate3578 OP That's exactly what I'm doing!!!! He said sorry I can't help you but you can still help me right? NO!
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    Font - love_laugh_dance ΝΤΑ They really expected you to work for free? Get out of here with that s And I kind of doubt that your former coworker is having that much trouble with individual tasks. I suspect she having trouble with the work load because he never replaced you. And a few months later things are falling apart. You had loyalty to a company that has none towards you. If I were the co-worker I would be looking for another job, too. If, for some reason, you do come to fair terms and deci
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    Font - 01 ShirtSeparate3578 OP No, she definitely is having a hard time. I was available to my boss 24/7. He did not believe in work life balance, he worked himself to the bone, got 3 hours of sleep a night and thought EVERYONE should be like that. Completely scoffed at the idea of a vacation for my coworker and I but completely let my manager go on vacations for weeks on end leaving me in charge. It was rough. Looking back now I can't believe I wasted so much time there. It hurt, I was somebody

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